Not Smelling Like R Kelly’s Sheets and Other Lofty Goals

If you were hoping to read an impassioned speech on the evils of sexual harassment and assault, I’m sorry. This blog post isn’t about that. This blog post is about piss, my piss. If you don’t understand the reference you clearly haven’t acquainted yourself with the lyrical genius of Macklemore, specifically his song Thrift Shop. Go do that now, and then come back. This blog ain’t going nowhere.

I came home crying from CrossFit this morning. Tears were the second form of secretions I lost control of today. The first was piss. This is not new for me at least not since I had my son.

We have a trampoline park in town and I have never joined my child for the bouncy enjoyment. When he was really little and I explained that bouncing makes me pee he earnestly assured me they have a bathroom and I’d be fine. Oh, you sweet tiny man with a long urethra that you can angle up to defy gravity…. My urethra is about an inch and a half, and it points straight to the center of the earth, the very source of earth’s gravity. Additionally, I pushed a giant noggin through its next door neighbor about nine years ago. I don’t want to brag but I can push a baby out like a rock star. That baby popped out in three pushes. I hemorrhages my eyes I pushed so hard. I looked like I’d been strangled, and I’m convinced I eternally rearranged my innards.

Approximately, one in three women between 35 to 55 years have some stress incontinence. Over age 55 the percent only increases. Stress incontinence is considered leaking or dripping urine when sneezing, laughing, jumping, lifting, etc. For me it’s only a problem when I jump. Jumping rope is my kryptonite nemesis. The evil male trolls that invented CrossFit are in love with jumping rope. Yeah F—- those dudes.

I’m going to go ahead and declare that jumping rope is an ageist-sexist exercise. If one in three men pissed themselves during a particular exercise no one would do that exercise. Think about it. NO ONE WOULD DO THAT EXERCISE. Once again F—- those dudes.

So there I was at 7am with yoga pants clearly soaked at least halfway to my knees. I don’t do double unders either. I do singles, and I can barely do those because I’m so distracted by my ever increasing drip rate. At some point it ceases to be an effective workout. It’s mostly an exercise in humiliation and misery and has become my official deal breaker with CrossFit. F—- those dudes. All the dudes. If you have a penis, I resent you.

When I started CrossFit I had three goals;

  1. Build muscle mass.
  2. Build bone density.
  3. Look good enough to do it with the lights on.

I have a new goal.

     4. Don’t smell like R Kelly’s sheets.

Jumping rope predisposes me to fail at goal #4.

By the time I arrived home I had regressed to a three year olds level of irrational stubborn frustration. I found my husband in the shower and proceeded to berate the evil bearer of a penis on my mornings trauma and how I’m NOT GOING BACK THERE IF THEY EXPECT ME TO JUMP ROPE. Then I left to take my own shower and wash my piss off like the sexy classy woman I am.

My husband and I have traditionally had some intense conversations while one of us is showering. Some of them result in life changing behaviors or decisions. When we were newlyweds I was the clinical director of a facility and worked ALL the time. I was supposed to have a Saturday off with him, but someone called in sick and I couldn’t get it covered. So there I was crying the shower because I had to go cover another shift. He popped his head in and looked at me sympathetically. With the best of intentions he said “Awe Babe, even your boobs look sad”. I quit that job within the month. I’m willing to work hard and go the extra mile, but not if it gives me sad boobs.

Within five minutes of my melt down during his shower, he was sticking his head in my shower and doing his absolute best to comfort me while holding back laughter.

“They have a surgery” he offered.

“I’m not going under general anesthesia so I can jump rope! I fail to see the benefit over the risk!” Of all the first world problems…..

He tried several other solutions all of which I dismissed, because I was still an angry three year old, and angry three year olds are not solution oriented. Plus it’s not like I haven’t tried exercises or over the counter interventions. To be honest some of those things have made it worse. However, I have not tried physical therapy which probably makes the most clinical sense, and I have friends that swear by it. Garry brought physical therapy up as well, but I was still playing by preschool rules and stubbornly told him it wasn’t going to happen.

Throughout the day I have received multiple text on how sexy and beautiful I am (in spite of my incontinence and personality issues). As a result I have forgiven him for his impeccable bladder control and I am feeling less frosty to his earlier suggestions.

In defense of CrossFit, no one MAKES you do anything. In fact it’s been my experience that they work very hard to ensure you push yourself but in no way compromise your health and safety. I’m fully aware that all I have to do is ask a coach to give me an alternative to jumping rope, but in the moment, rage born from humiliation is more fun than reason or problem solving.

If the last three years have taught me anything it’s that somethings aren’t worth it. Nobody is or ever will pay me to jump rope. It’s completely replaceable in my life. I have no fitness goals that require me to jump rope. In fact, as of today I have a no piss policy and jumping rope is the prime violator, so it can piss off. That said, I’m going to try the physical therapy because there is nothing wrong with a healthier pelvis, and if I can jump on a trampoline with my kid or even someday do a double under it might be nice. In the last few years I’ve also learned that there’s nothing wrong with prevention and taking control of what you can, or at least giving it your best shot. In the meantime that cute pink jump rope I bought can F— it!

3 thoughts on “Not Smelling Like R Kelly’s Sheets and Other Lofty Goals

  1. This is BRILLIANT! I have struggled, over decades of coaching, with seeing students getting hyper-focused on the items that are difficult or impossible for them to accomplish and I watch those things grow larger in importance to them ONLY because they struggle with them. So yes, FUCK the jumrope, and focus on your
    MANY triumphs, that’s what will move you forward. You are amazing Beck Keller, and I love reading what you write!

    Like

  2. Ugh, I wish I would have read this when you first wrote it instead of today, after months of suffering and depression because I couldn’t do what I love, CrossFit.

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